It’s so easy: The ‘do this, and’-fallacy. It’s what we are bombarded with daily. Numerous times. Ads, full of ‘do this, and’.
Do this, and you will lose 20 Pounds.
Do this, and you will be happy.
Do this, and you will be rich.
Companies have made ‘do this, and’ the standard in ‘helping’ people.
However, ‘do this, and’ isn’t helpful for you.
Everyone has their own personal circumstances. Their own life phase, capabilities, skills, motivations, and beliefs.
If you really want to create a situation for someone to take the next step, ask “How can I help?”, instead of “do this, and”.
Let the other help you, help them.