What do you tell yourself about yourself? What do others say about you? What are you responsible for? And are you worried about it?
Grab a piece of paper.
Draw a circle.
Everything you have influence on, write in the circle.
Everything your can’t control, write outside the circle.
Be very specific. “My brother telling me I’m not capable.” Is specific. “My brother” or “critics” isn’t specific.
“That the people in my job interview don’t like me” is not in you circle of influence, but “being kind, genuine and myself in my interview” is.
“That I can’t pay my mortgage” is not, but “not spending money on unnecessary stuff” is.
What are you focusing your energy on? Is it in the circle?
And if you focus all your energy on what’s in the circle, you should definitely surrender the outcome.
Use the circle wisely, and it’ll show you the way.