I used to believe that positivity is this important value to strive for. That positivity brings you further in life. That the art of being positive is one of the things you have under control even if you have no control at all.
But what I discovered is this. Positivity is one side of the pendulum, where positivity and negativity are on either sides. When you are positive, you are not negative. And for any short term that’s OK. But being positive here is seeking pleasure when there is pain. And what happens is that you are denying pain when actually there’s something to be dealt with. That’s not possible when all you are is positive.
So here’s the solution. Be in the middle. Embrace positive, embrace negative. Be in the aware level of both these states, oversee them and use them to become a more productive, balanced and ultimately free version of yourself.