It’s patterns that just like the motor in a car fuel our behavior.
We can know and recognize the behavior and then optimize accordingly.
But patterns are deep rooted. You would not even recognize one when you see one right in front of you. Because you’re too close to the fire.
Thats where a reflection partner comes in. Someone that only knows you from your stories, patterns and behavior.
And together you can identify patterns and get rid of non-constructive ones.
Knowing yourself is the basis of mastery.