One of our greatest illusions is that we can control the story we are in. Our story unfolds, and we only have so much power to influence that ourselves. A gigantic part of what we were, are, and will become is compiled of luck and coincidence. Only the last (few) …
Good compliments are empathic, personalized and, well-meant. Not from your own narrative, but see it from the other person’s view. The ripple effect of a compliment is immense. And it does not even closely match the input. It can’t be repeated enough how important it is to compliment people, and, …
Do you recognize this? Losing weight is a problem to you. Or planning is a problem to you. Cleaning your house is a problem. Taking care of your finance is a problem. We all just have problems in our life we can’t seem to solve. They haunt us. Because this …
At the start of this week, take the foot off of the pedal. Take time to reflect, plan, appreciate. Last week’s leftovers: review, remove, plan. We all have 24 hours a day. Quit leftovers strategically: early. If you’re in something the long haul, don’t quit. Focus on the change you …
Parking in front of the neighbors house, in a public spot. Is it your right to do so, or is it your moral duty to not do so. Using your freedom of speech to make your point in a BLM discussion. Right or moral duty? Strong moral and ethics are …
Do you want more or fewer problems? Easy to answer right? Of course, we all want fewer problems. But there’s no such thing as an optimum of problems in your life. There’s no ideal number of problems. We would prefer to trade problems with more wealthy people. Or people with …
Good personalities make sure we don’t forget them, they leave an indelible impression that we will remember until we die. Great personalities change us, they inspire us to do better. Remarkable personalities – and that’s a rare breed – make us inspire other people to do better. Often we look …
Sometimes there’s just too much on your plate. Now there are two routes. You recognize there’s too much, and you stop doing anything. Zoom out, take some time to get all your ducks in a row. You only start working again when a) your deadlines are realistic and b) you …
Either you want something or you don’t want it. If you want something, go after it with all you’ve got and ignore all distractions. If you don’t want it, why pay attention to it?
My friends, you can’t work your back-hand, forehand, and strategy, all in an Olympic field-hockey final. But should you work on one? Of course. Winning coach Marc Lammers explains in his book ‘Flow’, that he provided every player with a personal point of attention, for every match. Because to remain …